Okay, one - as I said, I don't get why you keep on apologizing. Two, you seem to put a lot more into the act of flirting than I do. And three, it is about you not getting the girl, and there's nothing wrong with that. You got burnt once. It hurts, and it sucks. That's perfectly understandable. But you have to realize it is about you, and thinking about yourself sometimes is the best thing you can do.